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In a series of genre-blending essays, Entwined tells the story of my decade-long polyamorous journey towards a new kind of family.
In these essays, I attempt to build two committed relationships at once when no one involved has done it before; develop a powerful bond with the woman my partner loves; sit through a tense Thanksgiving Dinner with my religious in-laws; question the need for rules and hierarchy in my relationships; experience the intensity of a triad; wrestle with the fragility baked into the nuclear family after my father’s stroke; and explore my queerness and gender identity in English, in New York, and struggle to reconcile my newfound self in my native French-Canadian language and culture.
Entwined explores the fuzzy lines between friendship, romance, and family with various essay forms, including a play, an advice column, and a love letter. Yes, there are challenges, but rather than wallowing in the throes of jealousy, this collection celebrates the hard work of creating a love life that resists conventional narratives.
Coming Out Polyamorous for Thanksgiving
A 20-min short film based on a true story. Releases online November 20, 2025.
Synopsis
For the first time since coming out as polyamorous, spouses Alex and Don are hosting Don’s Southern parents for Thanksgiving in their New York City apartment. The fifth seat at the table is for Aly, Don’s partner of three years. Aly and Alex have developed a deep metamour connection, and introducing Aly to Don’s parents is an important step for integrating the lives of all three. But tensions escalate when Don’s parents struggle to understand the relationship dynamics between their son and his partners, and the polycule must weigh biological family against their chosen one.
Credits
Written by Alex Alberto & Ellen Adair Directed by Maren Lavelle Starring Ellen Adair, Mitzi Akaha, Scott Thomas, Monica Wyche, and Brian O'Neill Produced by Alex Alberto, Maren Lavelle, and Brooke M. Haney Cinematography by Jodi Savitz Art Direction by Beatriz Naranjo Music by Lillie Rebecca McDonough Edited by Isabella Morelli Avilán Produced with funds from The Polyamory Foundation, 59 Indiegogo contributors, and a Delaware County Arts Grants, a regrant program of the New York State Council on the Arts
online essays
Do I Still Call You My Metamour?
The Queer Love Project
You show up to my 31st birthday, on the farm I work at for the season in the Hudson Valley. This is Aly, my partner’s partner, I tell everyone. You’re wearing black jean shorts and your great-grandfather’s cowboy boots. I hug you and your hair smells of coconut. The farm crew is buzzing around: one is grilling burgers, one is peeling garlic to make aioli, another is…
When my partner was in the hospital, I missed his ex. Polyamory has only made my family stronger.
Business Insider
My partner entered the hospital room in a blue gown, his clothes stuffed in a clear plastic bag.
"You left the back untied!" I said, with a forced chuckle.
"Oh, they see hairy butts all day long," Don replied. "Plus…
I Felt Jealous Of My Partner's Girlfriend. Then She Gave Me The Most Extraordinary Gift.
HuffPost
When I met my partner’s girlfriend, it wasn’t “friend love” at first sight. But our love for the same human created a framework for prioritizing our own relationship. We were connected by a type of familial bond…
How Polyamory Taught Me to Be More Creative With Essay Form
Write or Die Magazine
Ten years ago, I adopted an experimental approach to dating: I decided to build relationships the way people create art. I’m polyamorous, meaning I maintain multiple romantic relationships with partners I care about and commit to. Instead…